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The girl who chose to enter a house of Bears…

I’ve been interested in the deeper meaning behind Fairytales for a long time. It must be a combination of a lifelong interest in writing (did you know I have a degree in Professional Writing with a minor in English Literature?) and an obsession with the shamanic art of reading sign and symbol. Deep Dives at Women Gather-in is the job that has been waiting patiently for me to accept, for a long time.

Brave Women met at The Place in The Wilde in September to Deep Dive into the Three Bears story, Self Crafting their own dreamtale to carry forward.

Brave Women met at The Place in The Wilde in September to Deep Dive into the Three Bears story, Self Crafting their own dreamtale to carry forward.

We kicked off the Deep Dive series with the story of the Three Bears, mostly because I’d never come across anything written about Goldilocks in terms of psychotherapy or mythological meanings. (I’m not very good at doing the same thing as everyone else!) As I found, there is a small amount published, but without a Clarissa Pinkola Estes chapter to back her up, Goldilocks has kind of been left out in the Woods, so to speak. I knew the stuff of magick and dreams was hidden in this story, and it just needed some careful paring and preening to find them.

Here is what I do when I study any story or myth to find it’s deeper meaning :

1. Find as many different versions as possible
2. Research their origins – go back as far as possible
3. Pull it to pieces, including language, characters, symbols, repetitions and that which is missing or has been lost
4. Sort the significant motifs
5. Read the symbols and signs
6. Restory a dreamtale that suits my findings

Traditional fairytales are entertainment laced with teachings, indicating that which is expected, appropriate and necessary for the continuation of community and happy lives in general. Once stories of the countryside, passed on for millennia from tribe to tribe, full of pagan-ness and wildness and symbol, are now clean versions of themselves. Old Wise Women became evil step-mothers, headstrong Maidens at the cusp of adulthood became infantile pretty girls, and every one can be saved by a kiss from a handsome prince…

In order to uncover and excavate the meaning of the stories we have left, it helps to have an understanding of the symbols that have been used as tools for communication since the beginning of time. Noticing when techniques are used over and over in a story can tell us that a symbol is very significant. Asking why and how allows us to see the story with new eyes, as well as a deeper recognition of how we related to the story as a child : Why does the story choose a spindle to prick her finger? Why are there three billy goats? How did the story change over time?

The purpose of restory-ing fairytales into dreamtales is not so much about righting what has been lost (although I do like that very much). This work, rather is about finding the age-old dream in the text and then finding our Self inside it.

Stories have been with us forever.

The ancestors of our modern day fairytale stories come from a time when people were as Manda Scott names them, Dreamers, Singers, Warriors, and Weavers. Words had importance. Stories  were not written, yet the symbols ran deep, repeated again and again by those who told the stories, and woven into the telling for a specific purpose. Now, as we explore the elements of fairytale on our own modern psyche, we must not forget that this is where our stories have their roots.

Different people find different realities in the same tale, because we each come from different experience. When working a dreamtale we must ask, “Who am I in this story” as well as “Who in my life have I made into the characters in this tale?” When we are able to answer these questions truthfully, the process of Self Crafting can unfurl, and the result is often completely unexpected.

The girl who chose to enter a house of Bears.

The story we now know as "Goldilocks" was once simply called "The Three Bears" and is littered with ancient universal symbolism and sacred power...

The story we now know as “Goldilocks” was once simply called “The Three Bears” and is littered with ancient universal symbolism and sacred power…

In the story that has become “Goldilocks” I found so many significant dream lines that I was truly surprised. Everything in that story, even the gentrified version we have today, has a reason for its place : entering the house in the Woods, the bowl of porridge, the chair, the bed, the Bears, and the window she dived from. This girl made a whole lotta choices, and everyone of them was her own. Can you name another fairytale heroine who has done the same?

Goldilocks has been described as spoiled and finicky, AND she has been described as curious and adventurous. How we view her, colours the story and creates a filter in which to read it by. What did you think of Goldilocks when you were a child? Was she stupid or bold?

And then, there’s the Bears. Were you, like Goldilocks frightened of the Bears, or did you want to stay with them forever?

Which of the bowls of porridge would you choose? Do you prefer the hard chair, or the soft chair, or do you choose exactly what you want, even if the world crumbles under you? What do you think and feel toward Goldilocks when she breaks the chair?

Do you see how pulling apart the tale allows you to find your Self? If you are playing the role of the girl in your life, how you feel about Goldilocks eating all the porridge does matter. It is not simply a story that you read as a little kid. The myths of our childhood roll into the beliefs of our grown-up life. Who have you been being? And who have you given the role of the Bears to?

How you feel about Goldilocks, the Bears and the actions in the story all pave the way to deeper understanding, and finding your dreamtale amongst the story of your childhood.

How you feel about Goldilocks, the Bears and the actions in the story all pave the way to deeper understanding, and finding your dreamtale amongst the story of your childhood.

When I facilitate the process of re-storying a fairytale, the purpose is to allow you to know the tale better AND to know your Self within it. The dream is your essence and how you relate to the world around : all of your ordinary and non-ordinary realities included. When you find out who you are Being within the confines of the story, it is no longer a tale that is “off with the fairies”. It becomes a “dreamtale” understood for the benefit of You. It’s a process of Self Crafting. Where every step of the process is your own, and you get to choose how it ends.

There is so much I could say about the tale of The Three Bears, but by doing so I would be taking away your chance to explore it for You. Please know that the presentation and process that I gave at Women Gather-in in September 2016 is currently being prepared to be available as a workbook at the Institute. In the meantime, I invite you to join us for the next Deep Dive, where we will be dreaming Red Riding Hood. October 16th at The Place in The Wilde, Mongarlowe.

All details of upcoming Women Gather-in events are found on the Institute Calendar

Best Week So Far : Sunday 11th September 2016

bestweeksofarSunday 11th September

This week has been the best so far!

When you live a life guided by creating more and more awesome, you ensure that each week is better than the last:

better awareness = better choice = better resources = better being

Don’t get stuck in the past with a week that was “the best ever”! Create weeks that are the best so far, and keep on creating more!

Here are the tools that have contributed to this week being my best so far…

Question…

Questions offer choice and possibility you weren’t aware of before. Conclusions offer rigid judgements that trap you where you are. Here is the question that has created the most change for me this week :
What or who can I add to this that would change things and bring more ease straight away?
When you have a million things to do and you’re not really sure how to do them, ask questions. It may seem that adding more will create more ‘overwhelm’, yet, would an Infinite Being really get overwhlemed? Ask what you can add and notice who or what shows up to make your world easier …

Work on the Women’s Space…

We have worked through the week, building the Lodge at The Place in The Wilde. Timeline is looking good for next weekend’s events. If you are intending to come along to the Red Tents and Deep Dive, it is imperative that you book by Wednesday so that I can send out the directions to you in time. See the progress photos of The Place in The Wilde here >>>

I’m Reading…

I read so much non-fiction and it means bedtime is so full of information that my brain never stops. So, against all habit, I’ve been bringing more fiction into my life. Talulah from Making Sacred gave me her absolute favourite historic fiction series ever (big pressure right?), and I smashed the first book, already onto the second. The series about Boudicca and written by Manda Scott. It’s all about a tribal world of horses and dog and hunting and being on the land. It really is better than I thought it would be, and the writing has reached a new poetic scent in the second book.

Eat here…

Canberra people, I don’t know how late we arrived at the party : I have just found the Peruvian place at Dickson called Cholo’s Peruvian Cuisine. I’d never tried Peruvian food before and it was delicious! Like, the best meal I’ve had out for a long time. A lot of that had to do with the service and decor and just all round niceness of the place. Whenever I go to a new restaurant I ask the waiter what they would choose. It;s a good way to know what’s more like the traditional food and what’s there just for Australian taste. So fun. So yum. Please go and check them out.

Quote of the week…

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

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Thanks for reading, have an awweeesssooomme weekend!
Maia Nie Heya,

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Best Week So Far : 4th September 2016

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Sunday 4th September

This week has been the best so far!

When you live a life guided by creating more and more awesome, you ensure that each week is better than the last:

better awareness = better choice = better resources = better being

Don’t get stuck in the past with a week that was “the best ever”! Create weeks that are the best so far, and keep on creating more!

Oh it’s been a while between BWSF letters but I promise I’ve been having lots of great weeks! We have moved house and currently have no reception for internet or cell phones. While I’m deciding whether or not we will ever connect to the satellite, I’m getting heaps of time to write and dream and create the life that sets me free!

Here are some tools that have contributed to this week being my best so far…

Question…

Questions offer choice and possibility you weren’t aware of before. Conclusions offer rigid judgements that trap you where you are. Here is a question that came up in the Red Tent this week :
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
If money wasn’t something you had to think about, what would you do? If you were being your entire contribution, what would that look like? Really, what’s stopping you? .

Post you might have missed…

A heap of new posts have hit the Institute site this week. In particular, some amazing women’s events with myself (Women Gather-in) and with my heart sistar Talulah of Making Sacred (Moon Circles).
I’ve also written about a collection that’s in our local library. HERE>>>
And, a piece that I feel truly represents exactly what my work and the Institute for Self Crafting is about. HERE>>>

A project on the go…

We are building a women’s space at The Wilde, and when I say “we” I mean we the women. A women’s space built by women, for women. See this Instagram Post to find out how you can be involved HERE >>>

Listening to..

Jason Prall’s You Optimized Radio is my current favourite Podcast. It’s not one I can listen to everyday, because they’re talking about big health concepts with lots of big words to match! I do listen to one guest every week though. If you want to check it out, I advise starting at the oldest podcast and work your way forward.

Quote of the week…

“The challenge of being a parent is to live our moments as fully as possible, charting our own course as best we can, above all, nourishing our children, and in the process, growing ourselves. Our children and the journey itself provide us with endless opportunities in this regard.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn

 

Thanks for reading, have an awweeesssooomme week!

Maia Nie Heya,

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